Where did the 70 percent solution originate?

For years, I was frustrated by how being introverted caused me to have difficulty relating to people. I could share facts and data, but to have a comfortable conversation was very hard for me. I tried to become more of an extrovert by coming out of my shell. For years I struggled with this as people would make me feel inferior by their response to my efforts. I often came off as somewhat obnoxious as I tried different approaches, trying to solve the problem in my own strength.

It wasn't until I began to come to grips with the fact that not all problems in relating to other people were mine. It was so freeing to be able to stop worrying about my own feelings and be able to see in others the needs they have.

I have dedicated my efforts to understanding the differences in people that can influence my own feelings. By deciding that it is not my issue when a person rejects me, rather their own, I can concentrate on being the best possible friend to the 70% of people who are willing and interested in relationships with people like me, while still having value for the other 30%. I have learned to be a relater and an explainer, as needed by the type of person I am trying to communicate with. This is the secret that I want to share through this blog.



Let's talk about this together and live out the solutions that 70% of the population respond to - and learn to live with the 30%!

Friday, October 8, 2010

You guys are killing me!

So you know this is a blog right?  Sometimes I have something interesting to say, but not often.  A lot of what is going on this blog is supposed to spur you to have some sort of reaction.  I am not here to entertain you I am here to provoke, to encourage, to challenge.  Basically to annoy you the same way this idea annoys me. 
In most if not all cases, you guys have much more clever observations on this subject of relating and explaining to different groups of people.
I need you to participate to make this worth all of you being part of the audience.  Teach me back!
Posted by Chris Byrd and Friends at 4:43 PM

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  1. UnknownOctober 8, 2010 at 6:32 PM

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  2. UnknownOctober 8, 2010 at 6:36 PM

    OK, here is a thought for you. Last week I was talking to a guy at work and he said "Your a Christian.....". We had a great conversation. I had to go to my next meeting but before I left I told him that I did not know he was a Christian before that day.

    Yesterday I ran into him again and he told me that my comment had made him think. He told me that he thinks that God was speaking to him through my comment. He wants to live his life so people know he is a Christian and he told me some things he was changing.

    I asked him before I left how he knew I was a Christian. He said that he saw my wife and I in a restaurant and we prayed before we ate.

    It just goes to show the simplest things can have great consequences.

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