Where did the 70 percent solution originate?

For years, I was frustrated by how being introverted caused me to have difficulty relating to people. I could share facts and data, but to have a comfortable conversation was very hard for me. I tried to become more of an extrovert by coming out of my shell. For years I struggled with this as people would make me feel inferior by their response to my efforts. I often came off as somewhat obnoxious as I tried different approaches, trying to solve the problem in my own strength.

It wasn't until I began to come to grips with the fact that not all problems in relating to other people were mine. It was so freeing to be able to stop worrying about my own feelings and be able to see in others the needs they have.

I have dedicated my efforts to understanding the differences in people that can influence my own feelings. By deciding that it is not my issue when a person rejects me, rather their own, I can concentrate on being the best possible friend to the 70% of people who are willing and interested in relationships with people like me, while still having value for the other 30%. I have learned to be a relater and an explainer, as needed by the type of person I am trying to communicate with. This is the secret that I want to share through this blog.



Let's talk about this together and live out the solutions that 70% of the population respond to - and learn to live with the 30%!


Wednesday, September 1, 2010

For communicating to the 30% and 70%, we have some models in the Bible, Jesus and others

For the next few posts I am going to take a look at the way the Bible looks at Jesus's ministry, from the eyes of several different writers who were explainers or relaters or both, as well as the writings of Paul, and some of the supporting cast.

It is my assertion that Jesus Christ was the perfect blend of explaining and relating, and that he exhibits both skills throughout his ministry to both the 30% and the 70%.

Examples to be discussed include:

How Jesus Christ related to the woman at the well, which opened up the opportunity with her entire town.

How Jesus refused to engage with hypocrites, not wasting his time explaining to those who only wanted to refute and discredit.  Yet, how he was there for Nicodemus!

How Jesus was prepared to be in full explainer mode when he was tempted by Satan in the desert.  There is no relating there.

How He used parables effectively.

The sermon on the mount and how it combines relating and explaining.

How He was so capable of having such a diverse group of followers, yet relate to each one effectively, as well as prepare them for ministry, by explaining and demonstrating at a pace they could handle.

Paul -a natural explainer, as he relates in his letters.  Especially 1 Corinthians 13.

Luke - the explainer, compared to John the relater and how that influenced their writings.

Peter, David, Abraham, Barnabas and others all show how God creates in each of us natural abilities and the capability to become more than that through effort.

This might sound a little dry, but I hope to have some fun with it and add in some personal stories as well.

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