As you know from previous posts, the 70% solution is all about letting your self esteem and communication values be based on the 70% of people who respond to you in a positive manner, rather than having your self worth be dictated by the 30% who aren't interested in relating to you, and may not want to communicate at all. While there are many fine people who are not good communicators in the 30%, and we all find ourselves there on occasion, there are some in that group who just make all our lives more difficult.
Think about this phrase and whether you ever experience this feeling. I DON'T CARE WHAT HAPPENS TO THE REST OF THE WORLD (INSERT PERSON, PLACE OR THING HERE), I AM GOING TO GET MINE!
We see this all the time in our culture - from the politicians who do whatever it takes to get reelected, to the financial people who make a fortune while destroying ours, to the people pushing to remove any semblance of Christianity from our country, to the person next door whose garbage spills in your yard and they leave it for you to clean up.
Our natural inclination is to resent these types of people who are hurting our piece of the world for their own selfish needs. We believe that "our rights" are now somehow being taken advantage of by them, and we can fall into the trap of "getting ours".
When we are in the presence of these types of people, we have to realize that they can take us down to their level more easily than we can raise them up to our own unselfish, 70 percent attitude. Be careful. it is so easy to become a ME person, and this world has enough of those. Finding ways to turn the tide of selfishness is a long term solution, not something that will change overnight. Our ability to relate to them in way that models the unselfishness of Christ is crucial here.
We have been crucified with Christ, now it is no longer I but Christ who lives in me. How can we be selfish after this sacrifice?
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