So, each of our children has made a decision to become a Christian. It has been an interesting journey as each child has had a different way of reaching this decision. Our youngest was the most intriguing, and it fits right in with what I have been talking about.
So he is eight years old and has been wanting to make a decision for a long time. About a year ago, he began to show a serious interest in God and what it means to "ask Jesus into his heart". It was an intellectual pursuit for him for a long time. He know all the right words to say and was good at answering all the questions about what it meant to become a Christian. He was surrounded by a wonderful group of adults and teenagers who lived lives which demonstrated what being a Christian is all about. However, we really did not give him a chance to do anything at the time, because it was all a head thing.
He had some work to do to understand how a relationship with Christ works. Some of the stuff that was explained to him was actually in the way, and we had to be very careful, not to let him be caught up in an act that would have been meaningless in the greater scheme of things.
Recently, we began to sense in him the maturity of thought to begin to feel what a relationship with Christ is all about. It became more personal and less technical. You could tell the Holy Spirit was working on him and his heart was open to receiving on faith, what he had been so anxious to receive on fact before.
Weird, but it wasn't until the facts got out of the way that he was able to see the relationship and the value of the faith that far exceeded the knowledge. We are so proud and excited that he made this decision, and are confident that it was all him, not something to please us or check off a box - fire insurance so to speak.
Sometimes facts can get in the way of faith. We need to back up and let things move at God's pace. He knows how to work though the spirit to reach those who are stuck on the details and can't feel the spirit move them. Slow and steady wins the race sometimes.
Facts are the truth, but without faith they just make us smart. I want to be wise, and that requires faith in what I don't know or understand.
Self-esteem and self-image are keys to personal growth and success. To be a great communicator, you have to have enough confidence to be able to speak to people in many different situations, not all of which are your preferred comfort zones. Too often, we get discouraged by the response of the 30% of people out there that do not connect to our natural approach. This blog shows how to use the 70% of responsive people to drive your personal success and feelings.
Where did the 70 percent solution originate?
For years, I was frustrated by how being introverted caused me to have difficulty relating to people. I could share facts and data, but to have a comfortable conversation was very hard for me. I tried to become more of an extrovert by coming out of my shell. For years I struggled with this as people would make me feel inferior by their response to my efforts. I often came off as somewhat obnoxious as I tried different approaches, trying to solve the problem in my own strength.
It wasn't until I began to come to grips with the fact that not all problems in relating to other people were mine. It was so freeing to be able to stop worrying about my own feelings and be able to see in others the needs they have.
I have dedicated my efforts to understanding the differences in people that can influence my own feelings. By deciding that it is not my issue when a person rejects me, rather their own, I can concentrate on being the best possible friend to the 70% of people who are willing and interested in relationships with people like me, while still having value for the other 30%. I have learned to be a relater and an explainer, as needed by the type of person I am trying to communicate with. This is the secret that I want to share through this blog.
Let's talk about this together and live out the solutions that 70% of the population respond to - and learn to live with the 30%!
It wasn't until I began to come to grips with the fact that not all problems in relating to other people were mine. It was so freeing to be able to stop worrying about my own feelings and be able to see in others the needs they have.
I have dedicated my efforts to understanding the differences in people that can influence my own feelings. By deciding that it is not my issue when a person rejects me, rather their own, I can concentrate on being the best possible friend to the 70% of people who are willing and interested in relationships with people like me, while still having value for the other 30%. I have learned to be a relater and an explainer, as needed by the type of person I am trying to communicate with. This is the secret that I want to share through this blog.
Let's talk about this together and live out the solutions that 70% of the population respond to - and learn to live with the 30%!
Monday, September 13, 2010
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That's awesome. I love it. And wouldn't have expected this to happen any other way for him!
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